Compass vs Map
There are two ways to teach/coach/lead:
One - give them a map, show the way, how everything is laid out, what roads to take, where to stop, where to avoid. Basically, give them a map and, hopefully, everything is accounted for, in the place you were expecting and no unforeseen hazards.
Two - give them a compass, provide direction and say this is where we want to get to. Find your way. Make mistakes. Clean up the mistakes and go back if you need to. Go over stuff, under stuff, through stuff.
The first way creates followers. The second way builds leaders and character.
Teach, coach, and raise your kids, by giving them a compass. Not a map.